It's amazing to me that, although we thought we were good communicators, there were things that we didn't talk about, or never questioned, never asked each other what works for us.

We thought we were good communicators because asking the simple stuff was easy, asking what we thought of things in the moment.

And yet, we didn't see the deeper stuff, the stuff that really makes us tick, the stuff that is part of our fundamental selves, the stuff we don't want to change, the contradictory views. We didn't talk about that.

Maybe we were afraid to mention those things because we knew, deep inside, that they would be difficult. Or maybe we were just blind, unaware.

There's a lesson to learn, though, that not matter what form of relationship you are in, there always seems to be some things that are taken for granted.