Today, my ex-wife is holding an event she has prepared for quite a while. I'm impressed and appreciate what she does, and said so publically.

Out of the blue came a response from another member of the same forum, telling me "Stop trying to convince people you give a shit about Lisa, or what shes doing". And this is from a person who has met me maybe a handful of times, and probably has listened a lot to Lisa's complaints about me (founded or not, doesn't really matter, they're still a one-sided view of what I did and who I am).

I'm still a little bit in shock, because at this point in life, it's hard for me to fathom anyone passing such strong judgement about what anyone else feels or thinks after having just met a handful of times and not even really talked at all!

I do give a shit about Lisa, at a minimum because she's the mother of our son and that he lives with her and she currently is his main care-taker, but also because we did have a 5-year relationship, and no matter how good or bad it was, she still made an impression on me, she is part of my life and will always be. I can't rip those years away, who would I be kidding even trying?

Either way, if anyone wishes to pass any judgement on me, make sure you have a chance to fucking know me, fer gods' sake, so you fucking know what the hell you're talking about. Otherwise you know what you can do with your opinion.

The really sad part is when people hear about a divorce and what lead to it, and decide to "choose a camp", siding with one of the divorcees over the other, never giving themselves a chance to see all sides of the story. It's nothing but hurtful, and doesn't help healing in any way, quite the contrary. That's very sad, and unfortunately all too common. I truly hope noone has decided to side with me in that manner. If you have, please get to know Lisa as well if you can!