This is a blog entry transfered here from a poly forum

Some days, I wonder if I have to live a poly life. What's forcing me? Of course, one could as well as if I have to live a mono life. What's forcing me?

After all, I don't really believe in "have to"...

As things are right now, I can say that I have to. I have a close relationship that I don't want to let go of. It's explicitely poly, and structured in such a way that there's ample space for at least one more relationship 1. There simply isn't space for a mono relationship.

However, should I speculate a bit, I can imagine myself in a situation when I'm single (really, have no close/romatic/sexual relationships at all), get head over heels in love and believe it could turn into a long relationship 2, and the question is what my choice will be. I'll talk about poly, of course... but would I be stiff-necked about it? What's worth more, to stick to a certain form no matter what ot to welcome love in my life regardless of form?

It's been a long while since I asked myself these questions, it's been a few years when poly was so much the obvious right choice that I really couldn't picture anything else. But today? I really can't say for sure... I know that I wish for it, but should it really be such a strong priority?